But in my case it was more an issue of not ever doing much because if we do X...what if Y would have been more fun/appropriate???
One can get FROZEN in indecision.
Now as for making promises and not following through...well that was CJ's forte! (Sure I'll print out those photos, sure I'll clean XYZ, yup the lawn for sure!...)
It drove me NUTS!!! But I HAVE learned to let go of some of the little stuff. Who really cares if the grass gets cut??
But when it involves your D, well that's different. Especially if she's learning not to trust what her Mom says.
Maybe take note of what Cathy is saying and ask your W if sometimes when she makes plans, it's more thinking out loud than something she's going to make happen?
Even a slight change in phrasing would take the edge off...Like "I might feel up to making stew tonight, how does that sound?"...then the expectation isn't so high.
Also, I got so SICK of CJ saying he'd do stuff and then NOT (this was during the year of hell) that I finally, calmly, with no blame, told him that I would MUCH prefer if he didn't make ANY promises at all, rather than reneg on them.
For example "I'll be home early!...I'll call if I'll be late!"...I'd just rather NOT have that expectation dashed.
