I was about to suggest exactly the same, KAW. Just go with your D anyway. Or do whatever you had planned. Do not make a huge issue of it: just "I'm sorry you are not feeling like doing xxxx; D and I will." No reproaches no disappointed faces, nothing. Next time perhaps she will not change her mind
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
