One other thing I noticed. Your XH said he paid for that phone your son was using. Was he referring to a cell phone or does XH pay for the bills? Does he finance the house? If he does, then you might run up against a brick wall, at first. If your XH pays for the house or even the utilities then he will probably use excuse as his leverage. Even if your XH had you over a barrel where the house payments or utilities are concerned, there are other ways that you can get around that and force your son's hand. Let us know and we can figure out something.

Also remember how mad you were when XH said what he did in front of your son? You were talking in front of him also, weren't you? If not, then good. If you were talking to XH about your son disrespecting you, etc., the son heard that just as much as what your X said.....and neither should have been said in front of him.

It would be great if your X would grow up and support you where son is concerned, but he isn't so I hope you will take what has been said and think hard on it. I still want to be able to help you. Even if this is worse than taking medicine, it will help in the long run.



Sandi



It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!