Separated for 3 weeks now

[JKL2009]

Try not to think too much about what she is doing over the phone, but indeed feel OK to set limits on what happens around you. Own your actions, and don't try to analyze her actions right now. Don't believe anything you hear from her and half of what she says.

You need to work on yourself, and set small goals on things you want to happen. They should be focused on things you can control.

Give space - she needs it and you do too.