I do not understand why so many people know about her A. Who told the kids, relatives, and friends? The more people who are informed and are offering their suggestions to your W, the worse it will make the stitch. If she is openly flaunting the A, then the kids and family have a right to know, but if it is an EA and has a chance of disolving before going to the next level, .......well no point in going there b/c they "do" know already so need to deal with facts here.
Sandi,
I don't recall the sequence of events but after discovery of the EA, I believe I first confided in her younger brother for emotional support, then she in turn confided in a couple of her sisters, her mom and dad. Then she opened up to about 3-4 of her friends. Also, during the beginning of the EA, she was not secretive about openly flirty exchanges with OM on Facebook. Since the disclosure, I have overheard her talking to her sisters/mom wistfully about how good the OM makes her feel, so she is being open with them about her feelings but not publicly flaunting it.
After D3 blurted out "daddy (OM name)" twice while in the car alone with me a few weeks ago, I got very emotional and confronted my wife about it. During the confrontation, I had made comments that my younger son apparently overheard while in an adjacent room.
Regarding my contact with my son after the assault- I was not home at the time when it happened- I comforted him (he was crying uncontrollably)but made it clear to him that he could not treat his mother that way- ever. My wife saw this exchange but I did not see or hear her reaction to it.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
