It concerns me that you are seeing the technique of "detaching" as an option to choose whereas it really is the only thing to do if you are going to survive your W's A, or if this R stands a chance. I don't think you get it.... really, that you can not fix her. I believe that is the first step Big John has to make in this stitch! Back off and leave her alone and stop interfering.
Sandi, I misspoke in my prior post, I agree that detaching is not an option, it is mandatory in my case. I'm starting to get a handle on my emotions but I'm finding it is almost equally challenging to fight my natural instinct to "fix" her and everything else. I am normally very aggressive at addressing problems in life when they come up- I don't let things snowball. I am trying hard although it is tough to fight the urge when I'm already carrying everything else on my shoulders right now for the family.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
