C - Sounds like you're doing the BEST you can. Which is whats important. Just like everyone on here stresses just continue to become the BEST version of yourself you can. If she has her mind made up that SHE CANT FORGIVE the past then that is her stuff. I know I DEAL with FORGIVENESS everyday in regard to what my X did. I try FORGIVING HER everyday as well as myself. It's not always easy, but necessary. At some point she will have to realize that you can't change the past and have to do what's best for the present and future. Hopefully, she will realize staying together and working on a new R and M is what is best for all of you.
Stay strong and keep praying for patience and Love,
