Prematurely called divorce busted, worse now

[Orich]

Thanks for the responses.
Let me ask one more thing, then.
Should I confront her and lay out what I feel we need in order for us to work out the marriage, including addressing the possible EA or whether or not she is even interested in saving the marriage? Or should I wait and see what happens with her. I am already taking steps to work on me. I have done a complete 180 and kept it that way for many months in the area of household chores, which was an issue for her, I have joined a gym and have gone on nights when she wanted to go out with her friends, I don't call her at work as much as I used to, and I am also making decisions for the family that she used to.
Believe me, I am trying to do the right thing by working on myself. It is hard. I have many other stresses coming at me at the same time, unfortunately. But I am working through them. I used to use my relationship with my wife to endure the other stresses I have faced.
I am staying strong, though, I have not given in to anything yet.