The reason I say that I think it unlikely your W will abort the baby is for two main reasons.
The first one is her age. Her fertility is going to take a big nose dive from now on....and am I dreaming or has someone mentioned that she has miscarried before? Also, as soon as she starts feeling that babay move inside her it won't matter WHO the father is....it is HER child.
Secondly, she would be looking at what is starting to be termed a fairly late stage termination. None of your pop a tablet and it's all over, or we knock you out and you wake up and it's all gone. She is starting to look at having to have a proper labour in order to deliver the unborn baby- even if it is euthanised first. The number of clinics that are willing to do that to a health baby, with a healthy mother, from a family that can support the child financially, at this stage are going to get fewer and fewer as each day goes past. If there were a defect with the baby that would cause long term suffering to the child or financial hardship to the family, as I understand it , a pregnancy can be terminated at ANY time. That also is the case I believe if the mother's health is in danger at any time. Other than that, the longer the pregnancy is the harder it becomes to obtain a termination even if it is within legal time limits.
If she had intended getting rid of this child....if it was a true mistake....she would have done it much sooner than this.
To be honest GH, your life would be much simpler if she had never told you of the pregnancy and had just teminated it. Now you are going to be tied to her forever. On the other hand- there is nothing in this world as great as your own child. I have been blessed with four....and I nearly miscarried the third, ( they think now I was having twins and I lost one of them). They are what makes my life worth living. They are the glue that helped bind me to my H when he I found out about his A. Once you have children you are never really separated from the other parent.
Just as a by the by. We have never had paternity tests done on any of our children. It just wasn't something one did and my H had never had any reason to doubt the kids were his BUT he did one day say, when we were discussing what a tenuous thing trust is, that he has always trusted that our four children are his. He said that I KNOW they are mine....but he has taken that on trust. Based on your W's history I wouldn't take ANYTHING on trust apart from the fact that she will put her own interests first. Because of that I think she intended this pregnancy and she will not terminate it. It will give her a permanent hold over you whilst she continues to play games with OM. Will she stay....will she go.....will she leave GH holding the baby waiting her return.....the variations are limitless. Your W hasn't got the guts to go through a late stage termination; well, I would be VERY surprised if she had.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
