yeah......I agree .I like reading your posts and trustings as both of you are about on the same time table with bomb in 2005.....and the whole train wreck that could not be stopped....yesterday was really difficult.....I saw x at sons baseball game for summer league.....( he forgot it was fathers day????? left with out son????not sure if I believe that???, I saw him walking to the field and he looked horrible, came dressed like he had been in the yard pulling weeds..with a sad , mean look on his face.....then dissappeared after..son had to call him...hey Dad did u forget its Fathers Day I am suppose to be with you....hellooooooo.....I brought him to his Dad's came home and took a nap...thought this is not the man he was.....what happens to them...how could we have forseen this one....i have no doubt this is far worse than had they died.....I know that sounds sad....but it rips you up just to see how so far off they are from the person they were...like a zombie..how does this happen...and for our kids....I pray they never go through this....must keep the focus on the kids and our relationships ......yeah Fathers Day--- tough day....then u look at all the pictures of your XH with the kids....sure seemed happy and proud of his family....