I already did get him a card from the kids, I wouldn't think twice about that.. my question was if I should get one from myself... Guess I wasn't be clear.. fault of mine
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Nc~ I will try and look for one like that. He's worried about finding someone that is going to talk me into leaving???? he's paranoid I'd say.
and about the card, I gave him one from the kids and me. I just couldn't be that mean. I always give him one from myself, even though he's not my father, he's the father of my kids, so yes i did give him one. I'm a better person than that I was thinking and that even though he bombed out this mother's day, I wasn't going to stoop to that level.
Also, he doesn't speak to his dad (really messed up person) and I do feel sorry for him because of the relationship he has with him. His own father was emotional abusive to him, still is, that's why they don't talk, so I wanted to make him forget all of that.
We had a nice day, went to breakfast then to the movies in the afternoon to see "up" .
On the other front, things are weird I have to say. His stress level is back up again, with work not coming in and us barley making it, so ive been trying really hard to bite my tougue. ITS HARD!!
Thanks for checking on me.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
this post has really nothing to do with me I just want to say that infidelity is so rapid anymore...
the Govern. of SC just came out and said he was unfaithful to his wife. I'll tell you what, when I hear about stuff like this it just turns my stomach, look at how many people are affected, how many lives are destroyed and also his career.. was it all worth it?? When people have affairs, are they also brain dead??? It gets me so steaming mad... I know people are human, But to me, if you think that this is the way your Marriage is headed, seperate or divorce the person, give them that respect at the least.
ok, sorry for that rant, I just hate hearing about anyone having an affair, and I guess because we are all so sensative to it, it makes my feelings about it that much more crazy!!
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
You know, Irish, I don't know what's worse -- seeing how rampant that infidelity is taking place all around us ~or~ how many bystanders and otherwise normal people will not only excuse it but even celebrate it.
I could easily let myself get pretty darn dispirited and depressed were I to stop and think about how so many of my neighbors, friends, mutual acquaintances and former family members are willing to excuse my xW for cheating on me.
OOps my bad!! I cheated on my wife and left my state unattended, how many times? Ok I have said it now forget it and move on with no consequences. A$$hole!!!
Im'e glad his wife wasn't standing by his side to support his bull$hit.
It's sad indeed.
JAK
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NC~ Yes I totally agree with you, with the "ok, don't worry about it" people who do stand by and condone this crap.
Its just pathetic.
Well... My baby's last day of Kindergarten... Time does fly so fast.. S6 gave his bus driver some flowers this morning. He calls me from her cell phone and tells me NOT to pick up today... LOL.. That's ok.. (he loves his bus driver).. I ran to school to meet the bus this morning and he gave some more flowers to his teacher and his teaching assistant.
I can't believe the year is over. So much has happend. Time flies and I thinke when the kids are in school it goes by so much faster. Im proud of him and how well he did this year, but I can't say that it doesn't pull on my heart strings that he is growing up. I love him so much.
As for S3 I still have a few years of him home (prek is only 3 days a wk for 2 hours) So I will treasure it as much as a can.
As for H... he's been ok. There still something missing. Im just trying to get through the day most times and not dwell on the bad stuff.
Hope all of you Mommy's and Daddy's have a good last day (if you have one)
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Oh, Irish, I feel your pain! I have been going through my two S's clothing. I have put aside some of S8's clothes he cannot wear, shelving them until the time S4 has grown big enough for them. But as for those items that S4 can no longer wear... wow, it tears at my heartstrings to realize that neither of them are ever going to be that small again. They're no longer our babies anymore.
nc~ I actually do keep some of their clothes that I remember they really liked.. I know im a big sap
Feeling like crap today. My throat is so bad and keep sneezing. Im pretty sure its my allergies, although I already take something every day for that....
Supposed to go and get my hair highlighted today, but not feeling excited about it like I usually do. I have a gift card that I got for my Bday, so I will be using that, otherwise I wouldn't be going, too expensive.
Money is really tight. Two clients that owe us alot of money and arent paying. There is no reason for it, they just are squeezing us. It really stinks.
and H....AHHHHHH he fustrates me so much!!!! I asked him 2 wks ago to but the downstairs a/c unit in the window because I cannot keep the windows open due to christopher and my allergies... you would think he would do if for me... no. So this morning I got up and he was already leaving and I asked him to do it for me "nicely".... You would have thought I would have asked him to re arrange the freakin furniture... I can't ask him to do anything for me unless he is getting some benefit out of it.
He says its cool outside... i said "how many times do I have to tell you that I cannot open the windows because then the pollen comes in".... He doesn't care to ever listen to me unles it suits him.
selfish.
What the heck do I see in this man...... I don't ask for anything from him, even told him the other night that If he wanted to throw in the towel and get a regular job that would be a ok with me and that I would try and find something part time until S3 goes to K. Nope, he didn't see that as me wanting to help and I didn't expect him to agree with me because he's invested too much time (20 years) and money into the business to give up, but I wanted him to know that I don't need the best of the best.. I don't need material things, and that we can get by with the essentials. He says "oh, im not worried about that"... so as far as pressure, it seems he doesn't have any in that arena
I don't get it.
He doesn't care.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
