I don't have time right now to talk. Got to get to work, but I'll respond more later. I can try to understand in a way b/c my GS lived with us when he was that age. He also was spoiled but maybe b/c of different reasons. Anyway, my stand is to use tough love. It will be extremly hard for you b/c of your lack of family and friends and your need for support at this time. However, if you want your son's respect and love now and in the future.....YOU MUST USE TOUGH LOVE NOW. If I were you, he would not live in my home at this time. I would tell him he had this week to find another place to live. Then, if necessary, I would change the locks on the doors. That would be a horrible move to resort to, but whatever it takes to show him that you are boss of that house and HE WILL NOT CONTROL YOU. He may be an adult but that IS YOUR HOUSE. How dare him to treat you that way! I promise that he will not love you less and he will be mad, but in the long run, he will respect you for standing up to him. Anytime a 19 year old tries to get physical.....it is time to make drastic changes. If you don't, rest assured he will take up where his dad left off! You will be under his control and you will be a prisioner. Don't allow this to happen. He will be fine, but he needs pushed out of the nest. It is apparent that he has it made and will do nothing to support himself. Kids his age will play Internet games and lay around every day as long as somebody else foots the bill. You see this right under your roof. He will never support a wife and kids if he doesn't learn to be a man. Mothers have to teach sons how to be a good daddy and husband. It was not so much my H that taught our son......it was me! So, be firm and tell him he has this week to find a place to live b/c you are not going to support his lazy a$$ any longer. He will either get angry or play on your symphathy, but don't cave. He'll get over it! Don't let anything he says to his dad bother you. Expect it. I don't think his dad is to be respected at all and expecially in this area!
Anyway, I'll talk more later. Be determined in your decision and don't falter. Don't let your emotions control your decision. You have nobody that will take care of Renee except "you".
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
