Have you ever read The Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage by David Cunnigham? I would highly recommend it in your sitch (FWIW - I am far from being a success story on here).
I have found it to be incredible. Sorry to be a fella here and immediately suggest a solution to a problem - it really will help your hubby if he is willing.
Best of luck,
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
