Our weather has been very soggy, cool with occasional outbursts of sunshine. This inclement weather can adversely effect the mood, too. I know I feel as motivated as a slug in mud at times.
I heard today that we've had at least some rain for 30 of the last 32 days. No wonder I'm so bummed
Originally Posted By: Gypsy
You asked.. when does the work of DBing stuff kick in? It's when YOU see the difference in yourself. When you find yourself growing, letting go of the little stuff, having perspective, new awarenesses. It's all about you becoming the person you're meant to be in the best possible way.
I am seeing differences. Wish I could keep the PMA permanent, though (haven't yet). Just having the kind of day where I have to man up and admit to myself that despite all the positives since I found this site three weeks ago, I have been consumed by this for seven months now. I'm exhausted.
Originally Posted By: Gypsy
You can tell her that she can do all the work, that you don't agree with it (something she already knows). You can say, "I know you want this, I don't agree with it but I want you to be happy."
Gotcha. stillloveshim told me something similar, today. I appreciate her and your gentle/firm wording of it. I'll use that Tuesday.
Originally Posted By: Gypsy
The provision of selling the house with the divorce is a good one.. on many different levels. It's a smack in the face about the consequences of actions.
Thing is, first I told her no and then reconsidered when she asked and reversed myself for selfless reasons. Both decisions were pre-db. Just hate to reverse myself again, but it's the right thing to do so I will.
Thank you, Gypsy and hugs right back atcha.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
