Nope, I wouldn't give him a check for anything. Like you said, he left, not you. He wouldn't have to be paying for rent if he was where he belonged, living with you. Let him figure it out.

Sounds like you've got some good plans for getting and remaining more mysterious. Good for you.

ugh, I'm hot and sweaty, my cheap a$$ H refuses to turn on the AC and it's usually been around 80 degrees in the house. I'm not kidding, so even my damn fingers are sweaty typing this. Got 2 go.

Me: 36
H: 34
M: 1 yr
T: 2 yrs
D: filed by H 5/21/09, served 06/08/09, first court date for "maintenance" as well as a plea to restart Marriage Counseling and attend a Marriage workshop 8/24