Ok........I need some advice.....again. I had the first R talk with H today. He said he feels "obligated" to do things for me and he feels "guilty" all the time. He says he feels like he always has to be good.....that he feels an obligation bc he is legally bonded by marriage to me.
He said he had 2nd thoughts the first day he came and he saw me. He said "You looked so beautiful and if we didn't have history or if I did not know you, it would have been like that very first day we met. But, I would do things very differently from the start." I said, "Yes, I can understand feeling that way"
He said for the first time this morning he had a thought. He proposed we go ahead and get the D, so he can find some closure with this R and then he wants to be on his own until next July. He swears there is no other woman and he is not having or interested in having an A. He says he will promise not to have a R with anyone else, if we decided to meet up after a year. After a year, we could see if we can make a go of things again.
