Help- my husband wants to date me-advice needed

[cat03]

I know quite a few DBers on this board whose WAS saw Ls and even filed but later it was dropped, him seeing his L isn't the end, though I can understand your pain that he is even seeing one and that it seems so final talking to a L, but it doesnt have to be.

As far as the date, I had one of those, that numbskull idea of "seeing if I feel something", he still doens't understand that love isn't a feeling it is a desicion, I'm sorry you had hopes that were dashed, but dont' loose hope hon. Sometimes distance does help, and I hope this is your case, that he sees what he is missing.

I do believe in fake it until you make it, but I dont' think you have be all upbeat and chipper when he is around, just relax, be yourself, the self you were before you met him...find that confidence again.