Do you mind if I'm on here? If you want your private space, I understand and will stay away. I'm just concerned, but you are getting wonderful advice. The thing with talking will "regular" friends is they just don't get this and they feel your pain and they are reacting to that pain. It is normal and I'm understanding a lot of how it was for you when I went through all this crap. But this stuff is for you and S! He is going to see how you are handling this and might not comment on it, but he is noticing.
You can't control their actions, only yours. When you have times of doubt, re-read your thread, there has been some advice that nails a lot of this on the head. And it will be one step forward and two steps back for a long time. I remember at one point (I think it is the book) the average time is one month for every year of marriage. And we hit that one very close.
H denied every minute that he was in a MLC. I wonder if he would admit it now. And he would stand in the back yard talking on the cell, the parallels are amazing.
H is baiting you and you are doing a great job of not rising up to it. And someone said it earlier....don't make it easier for him to leave, the bills are all 1/2 his...he can't afford the house without you.
I'm here, anytime. Personal note: L is not doing well, she didn't eat much at the in-laws and can't even stand. I'll take her to vet tomorrow...extremely worried.
