GH31 - Dilemma with my pregnant wife

[GH31]

Hey Saffie,

Thanks for posting and hanging in there for me here.

FWIW, I knew you would meet her at the aiprport and that just showed her exactly who was in control - shame on you GH - you played into her hands yet again.

I agree. I am ashamed that I went to the airport to meet my W - curiosity got the better of me but I should have remembered I'm the proud owner of a pair of nuts.

W has tried to avoid getting into a discussion about the topic but I rang her sister and her husband to pull out of the christening. I wrote to them saying that W had been having an affair for 18 months, had gone to England to spend time with her adultery partner, I planned to separate from her, and that attending the christening was not something that I in good conscience could do. Her husband understood but W's sister got back in touch saying that she really wanted me to be a godfather to her daughter, that her 2 month old daughter needs a godfather and they thought I was the "best candidate". W also said I "should go" but my decision had nothing to do with her. So I went. In the reception afterwards everyone was congratulating W on the pregnancy. W avoided alcohol during the event as she did at dinner the night she got back, played with her nephews and mentioned that she has an ultrasound appointment this Wednesday at 9:30am. She would like me to go.

BTW, being a godparent to your niece is a completely different thing. Your R with her family is separate to what you think of your W. If you respect and love her family you go ahead and be godparent. If they are only asking you because you are your W's H and you are not sure then refuse.....and tell them exactly why. Say that perhaps OM should be the godparent. Stop hiding your W's secrets....you have nothing to be ashamed of.

And I am not ashamed that I did this. All of her family know what took place last week.