Sorry to hear about your morning.....you have been in my thoughts all day. I want to just break down, but your strength in dealing with you H's behaviour has really given me a boost today.
I agree with Sandi as far as detaching and dropping the rope...for you. For me, we have not lived together for 6 months now and so I am adding some activities.....though I am staying away from my normal "Martha Stewart" behaviors and nothing on a regular basis. No cleaning. Just putting the dishes in the dishwasher. No extra anything. I have so far only made one real meal and he has been here for 2.5 days so far. 3.5 days more to go....I am wondering when the s*^% is going to hit the fan. But, I went on and on about that on my blog.........so lets get back to you.
As sandi said, to get them out of their MLC fog, this will be very time consuming. I also think that bc NO ONE except H can help H, for my sanity and lack of expectations....I am adding way more time for this fog to lift ......for my H anyways. So it is best for us to start practicing living our lives as if we were on our own.
Its like someone said on another blog....I think of my H as a crazy, discheveled homeless person who is just going on and on, rambling things that I really just don't understand! It is just such a good analogy. Its like they have lost all perspective and would you argue with that crazy homeless person standing at the corner rambling? Isn't that just a great analogy?
I just wanted to check in on you, but see that a lot of DBers have responded to your blog. You hang in there and stay tough and dream big for yourself!
