I am so grateful that you took so much interest in my situation. You gave me so much of your time giving me such great advice. I thank you so very much Sandi!
So, here are the answers to some of those questions...
M 57 H 56 M 12 yrs ( 2nd marriage for both ) No children between us ( 2 dogs )
We are are still living in the same house because he says he can't afford to move out. He has a good income by the way. I just think he's stubborn and doesn't want to be the one to move out. As for me, I haven't wanted to move because my feelings are he created this, he wants the divorce, this is my home, let him move.
As for D... He filed ( did his own paperwork,no Lawyer yet that I'm aware of ). Then I retained a Lawyer and responded. The you know what then hit the fan because I asked for what I was entitled to. He didn't want me to have much of anything. Just my car I paid for, and this laptop he bought me for my B-day. How nice of him! My L just shook her head. I think he is upset with me because he thought I would just go along with what he wanted on the papers. It has been six months now, and L hasn't heard a thing from him. Yes, it is very hard living this way, watching him come and go and doing his thing. But as time has gone by, I find myself getting stronger. Sometimes I think he's trying to wear me down so I will leave.
I no longer pick up after him or wash his clothes. When I make dinner, I ask him if he would like to partake. I still buy things he likes when I go to the grocery store. I always wondered if that should stop also.
In five days, I am going away for three weeks to visit my D in Georgia. I told him when I was going, but didn't tell him where. Should I tell him anything more? Whenever I visit my parents for a few days in the next town, I always leave a note where I am. Maybe I should stop that also? Also I am wondering when I'm gone, if he will have the gaul to bring gf into the house. Yes, I know it's his house, BUT it's my house too. She would come here, she took up with a married man didn't she.
Let me know when you have more great advice for me...
