Please simply accept a compliment from your wife, the first in months, as all it was. It's Father's Day and she said something nice to you. Please do not jump on this and push her back again. Note that She also mentioned how HER birthday without you went....how wild it must have been, etc. What about the detachment did you not read?
Stay focussed on the Fathering role b/c that's all that is getting you anywhere anyhow. Re-read the Detachment again and again and don't jump on this. You are right when you say that your impatience is your enemy and the enemy could throw you a bone to make you jump again and blow it. Don't fall for that.
If you rush in every time you get a mere compliment (on a holiday--when we ALL make an effort to say something kind to our fathers or spouses), you'll stay stuck so much longer. Stay on track, and detach. Otherwise it's as if every time you see a sign or progress, you blow it b/c you get too excited and rush in to push and push....and you know deep down you are only beginning the journey toward being ready to be her h anyhow. Why rush this when taking it slowly is the only thing that has gotten you anywhere?
Enjoy the day. Leave tonight before being asked to. Be in a "hurry" to get back to your place b/c you have a life (even without her)...remember the GAL? The tiny bit of mystery? So have a nice dinner, eat dessert if there is one, and go. J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
