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[Faith2010]

H threw a bomb out today. Told S and I that he is or did apply for a job in TN. Said he is stuck where he is and this would be a great move for him professionally. He would still be in the military, just stationed in TN. S asked "What about us? Are you going to move without us?" H said that is still all up in the air. I finished what I was doing and left to get in the shower. H yelled to me "did you hear me?" I said nothing and he followed me into our bedroom and asked me again. I said yes. H asked "Don't you have anything to say?" I said "It sounds like a wonderful opportunity for your career." (talk about a 180 - I was flipping out inside!) H laughed and said "that's it?" I said no more.

told him that all big decisions must be discussed first, before informing S. He agreed, stating he did not "do it on purpose." H said he thought about it after he said it and realized he should not have said it.

In reference to the above - H applying for the job in TN - H sends me a text this morning which says "i guess i won't apply for knoxville." What am I suppose to do with that? Nothing?

Sometimes I think I see a hint of him coming around then the turnaround and the 'monster' appears. As minuscule as this sounds, he leaves for work this morning (works 24 hour shifts) and doesn't say bye to me - 2nd time he's done it. I'm just lying there thinking WTF?

Friday night, I cleaned the house. He comes home Sat morning and seems appreciative (he always cleans when he gets home, this time he did not have to). I go to get a shower yesterday,and he has a scrub pad and cleaner sitting on the bathtub. I removed it and went on about my business. This morning, once again he left the cleaner and pad on the bathtub and left the shower curtain open. Now am I overreacting or am I now being treated like a freaking maid?