GETTING UN'STUCK'

[25yearsmlc]

is it midnight somewhere?

NOT YET...somewhere....

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[MrBond]

Well I am in Hawaii and it's only 7:30.

[confusedinpa]

Stuck,

I made it through my 24 hours without posting, but I think I cheated as my wife spent much of the day with me and the boys (8:30 AM to 1:30 PM).

From the sounds of your last couple of post, you may be going for a weekend without posting.

Hope you enjoy getting a life!

[Kittyfish]

A&K is having alot of great things to say on this thread.

[25yearsmlc]

Happy Father's Day Stuck...did you call your dad? (If you are lucky enough to have him in your life still.) Do something fun for YOU...
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[MrBond]

Thanks everyone for the Happy Father's Day wishes.

I made it to 72 hours without posting, so that's pretty good.

Let's see.

My weekend was pretty good. My youngest daughter got sick on Saturday, and we were supposed to go to my W's aunt's celebration of being a nun for 50 years. So I stayed behind with my D while W and the oldest went. She came back around 5 and we had a pretty good dinner and we had fun. Nothing unusual.

On Sunday, we took my youngest to see Sesame Street Live. Beforehand, my W gave me a hug and a Happy Father's Day gift from the girls. Two workout shirts, a DVD of "The Big Bang Theory" and some snacks. After the show, we went out for a lunch which was pretty good. She let me try some of her food and drink which is something she balked at last year. The evening was uneventful as my oldest D got sick as well.

So Monday, I stay behind to watch my two D's while W goes to work. During that time, I clean the house and prep some dinner. My W calls during the day to ask how the kids are doing and actually stays on the line for a few minutes. When she gets home, she's still a little stand offish, but whatever.

Everything at night turns out well and the same thing, we're laughing, joking, etc. I really don't know how she shuts off her intimacy like that. It's like a switch that she can turn on and off at will. She wants to be my friend but not intimately. I am missing it.

Before going to bed, I ask her if she got the text materials I sent away for her nursing test. It was supposed to be a surprise, but I hadn't heard anything from her, so I was just checking. I told her about it and she seemed surprised and just said she didn't get anything. She said "thank you" then rolled over and went to bed.

And that was my weekend in a nutshell. I definitely saw glimpses of my old W coming back, but I'm not holding my breath or jumping the gun like I did last time. I'm going to take it one step at a time.

What's everyone's thoughts?

Oh yeah and today was the anniversary of our first date. It did suck remembering that. Plus it's our birthdays on Saturday, so if anyone has any suggestions, I'm still open.

[MrBond]

25yearsmlc,

We actually stopped by to wish my Dad a happy Father's Day.

One thing I forgot to mention was that my W actually bought him a Father's Day card. Considering how cold she was to my family recently, I thought this was a huge step for her. But I'm being cautious about it. She was never really close to my family because she was always quiet about her life.

What do you think?

[Kittyfish]

Don't read too much into it.

[sandi2]

Hey Stuck,

I wanted you to know that I was not ignoring you. I actually tried to find that question you wanted me to respond to when you came to my thread. Anyway, guess I kept missing it somewhere.

I will get back a little later and try to do a better job of catching up.

Thanks for asking about my health. I'm doing better. Just have to contend with that old Fibromyalgia, but it could be a lot worse and I'm thankful for my blessings.

Sandi

[confusedinpa]

I made it to 72 hours without posting, so that's pretty good.

Sounds like you had a pretty good dad day - not posting for 72 hours probably helped!

A question came to mind as I've been reading your situation, did your wife ever say why she came back? It's huge that she came back and she's in the house and sharing a bed (even without intimacy). But from what's she's doing, does she think she's working on the marriage or what?

Just a curiosity....