WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

I think this is the first 24 hours that I made it through without posting about my wife.

Although I may have cheated as my wife came over about 8:30 this morning to have breakfast with the boys and I. After breakfast we chatted about how she was feeling and her work stress and my job search. I also talked about how I wanted to buy a bar/resturant as a change of career (something I always wanted to do was to own a night club). She didn't seemed thrilled as she didn't understand it, but I just tossed it out there.

The kids played while we chatted.

Then we talked about some tactical stuff about the kids - i.e. which weeks we would send our 7 year to camp and for how many days; how to handle next week (we will meet for dinner on Tuesday nite and I'll get the kids back then)

We also talked about handling the logistics for the baseball game tomorrow we were going to go to for Father's day.

She then helped the boys make up father's day cards for me.

At that point it was getting close to lunch. I asked if she wanted to stay for lunch so she offered to teach me how to make her tuna noodle cassarole that the boys love. She went to the store to pick up what we needed (I gave her the cash) and we made it together and ate it for lunch.

While we were making lunch, I did try the compliments thing that was mentioned in Stuck's thread. I just made note of how it looked like she had lost some weight. She talked about it some of what she is trying to do to lose weight.

After lunch, she and I chatted some more. She started to complain about her back so I rubbed it a little as she rested against the kitchen island. Then she asked me to crack her back with a hug. She said it really helped, but it was still tight. So I told her to lie down on a pillow in the family room as I gave her a massage like I used to when we first started dating. She almost fell asleep while I massaged her back.

As she laid on the floor, she mentioned how worried she was about me as how I first lost the family and now the job. I told her that losing the job definitely s**ked, it didn't really faze me too much as I know what I need to do to about that. I've done it several times in the past, albeit just to find promotional opportunities, this is the first from an unemployed situation and in such a crappy economy.

I did tell her that I am not limiting my searches to any particular area, but am focusing on something in the tri-state area. I said before I made any decision, I will talk with her to let her know what was going on since it may impact the kids.

Then I tried to shift the conversation to something lighter. We talked about some funny things from when we were together (she laughed) and some funny stories about the kids. We even pulled up an old video we made of our 3 year old. The four of us really had a good laugh at that one.

It was past the time our 3 year old took his nap at that point so he started getting cranky. I said I was going to take him upstairs so I asked if she wanted to say goodbye to him. She did and the three of us waved bye to her from the window when she left around 1:30 PM

I put our 3 year down for his nap and I went to play video games with our 7 year old. After the 3 year old woke up, it finally stopped raining so the 3 of us went for a bike ride around the development (this time the 3 year old went around twice). His big brother beat him in a race but when he saww how upset the 3 year old, he let him win the second race.

Then the 3 of us played catch (baseball) and then basketball.

I had to make dinner so we went inside. Had a good dinner and played after the baths.

It was a good day.

I even wound up networking with someone who may be able to help me do some consulting work while I look for a full time job. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.