I like Saffie's advice. If her strategy is correct, you get to have this baby either way. I think that's probably what is eating you inside the most and why your pandering so much to her. I know the most valuable thing that came from my failed M was my Son and I thank God for him every day. I'd walk through the same fire again if I knew he would still be my S at the end.
As a Father, I can see how difficult your situation is. You have a very difficult balancing act to maintain until this baby is born. Afterwords, you'll have more power over the situation. She does sound like the type that would give over the baby to you willingly. I wish you the best.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
