Newbie - first post and ?s

[Faith2010]

PDT -

Took your advice and told him that all big decisions must be discussed first, before informing S. He agreed, stating he did not "do it on purpose." H said he thought about it after he said it and realized he should not have said it.

My next obstacle will be the OW. S said H was outside talking on the phone to someone tonight, most likely OW. H got some texts earlier in the day and tried to act 'sneaky' - like he wanted me to ask or try to look at his phone, but I did not. I already have the proof I need that OW exists (i.e. phone records) and if it manifests to a PA, I will have to take steps to obtain proof at that point. My reasoning for the proof is in case we do D, I will pull out all stops if necessary.

H is bugging me to ML (not those words, though). I am still on the fence on this one. There is no way he has been physical with OW because she lives 1500 miles away. On one hand, I feel like it might help us stay together because it reminds him of how good it can be but on the other hand, I DO NOT want to be a doormat. Haven't found any advice in the book yet on this but I'm not finished reading yet either.