Making Strides...

[mishka422]

(((BBJ))))

Understandable anger and frustration on your part. Dan is jerking you around and getting everything he wants in the process. He wins outright, no matter how 'torn up' he says he is about it. Don't allow him to do that anymore. Call him on his BS!

Discipline is something that will cause contention forever if you let it. Plain and simple truth, Dan is not there. Dan is not a permanent disciplinarian in their lives. I would wager a guess that the kids see him more as a 'fun uncle type' than a 'stable dad type'. You set the standard for the rules. Dan can set the standard for the rules in his own home if he ever sees fit to get that in order. Until he has that, he needs to follow your lead on this. You must tell him this. He has no right to dictate to you especially when he is walking away from his family.

Ok, I hear in my own post that I'm getting really b*tchy and ticked off. Sorry. It raises my hackles to hear this man who has treated you so abominally is now using drama tactics to try to 'bring you into line' with his way of thinking! No more BBJ! Stand up to him and lay down the boundaries. The kids are your territory, he has taken the role as visitor in their lives. Too bad, so sad. He chose this, not you.

Give the copies of the statement to your L. Make sure you tell him exactly what Dan claimed he was doing. Tell him everything you know or suspect. Dan makes SERIOUS money and he is letting you live on a pittance of that. If your L needs to use a forensic accountant, then by all means let them! They need to dig up every penny Dan has coming in and make sure that you get your fair share for yourself and the kids. Dan created those children and is responsible for them. Period. I have no idea what the laws in Iowa are, but in GA it is community debt no matter whose name is on the bill or whose income was used to obtain the credit or loan. Of course, none of this helps me since my xh has no job anymore and is apparently "The Biggest Loser" and not in a good way! HA!

Oh yeah, Kerry, Jell-O is made from hooves, but we love it anyway. Of course, Cool Whip is only one molecule away from plastic and yet we eat it too!