Did you relate it back to your marriage at all? Does your wife have an opinion on what they should do (i.e. try to work things out? Does she "blame" her sister or BIL?).
Is the "op" invited to the family picnic as well? How does her family view you? Him?
Matilda, I said that I hope that they can work things out, and that maybe a separation will be a catalyst for them to make some changes.
My W's opinion is that her sister is the one who is unreasonable to live with and is blaming her H for being mean to her. She also believes that her sister paints herself as a victim and won't acknowledge her issues and make the needed changes.
I don't know if her friend is invited or not. Her sister is considering hiring him as a live-in nanny. It would save him some expenses, and give him a place to board his horses. He's considering it. My W is trying to discourage him from puruing it, as she thinks her sister is unreasonable to work for.
I think this sister views him as my W's friend. They like me, but probably think I tolerate too much from my W. The BIL told me once that he couldn't believe I don't have a drinking problem.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
