Basically I said, something is holding you back, and I don't know what it is (even though I have ideas), I'm trying to be patient, but this is getting old, and it's terribly frustrating that you won't open yourself up to me. I told her I could take it, what ever it is, because I know that being honest with each other is the only way we can get to where we both want to be in our marriage. I closed with an "I love you".
Excellent. That letter was excellently stated. I understand why you didn't do this face to face, but isn't that what you are needing? You need her to talk to you. She has a hard time doing this, and giving her the letter and then time to think about it is probably good. But, you do need to eventually talk about it. Face to face.
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I just feel myself caring less and less. I fear it's getting close to my just not giving a flying F what happens, all just when it seems she's figuring it out.
This statement is probably part of what is holding her back. If she gives you all of her and you decide you don't give a flying f and it is not enough and after she tells you everything and you aren't able to handle it, you ditch her. It's a huge risk and giving a bit but not all is keeping her heart safe. It is actually being safe with a lot of her emotions. What if she gives all to you and it is not enough for her either? It's all a risk. Like I always say, you need to communicate to her about this. You both need to take that risk. IT's a commitment as well. If you don't talk about it, neither of you have to commit to each other....you both have one foot out the door....just in case......
You may say you HAVE talked to her, etc. Well, let's just focus on this latest letter. You sent it to her because you must have felt it needed to be said. Why not follow up on it now? REALLY talk about it , get a plan set, some steps follwoed through, etc.
