Newbie - first post and ?s

[Faith2010]

Thanks Gardener - needless to say you, Giving, Serenity and Puppy are my saving graces, thus "my guys".

H threw a bomb out today. Told S and I that he is or did apply for a job in TN. Said he is stuck where he is and this would be a great move for him professionally. He would still be in the military, just stationed in TN. S asked "What about us? Are you going to move without us?" H said that is still all up in the air. I finished what I was doing and left to get in the shower. H yelled to me "did you hear me?" I said nothing and he followed me into our bedroom and asked me again. I said yes. H asked "Don't you have anything to say?" I said "It sounds like a wonderful opportunity for your career." (talk about a 180 - I was flipping out inside!) H laughed and said "that's it?" I said no more.

Oh, and on the midlife crisis/computer thing. After eating lunch, I asked H if there was anything left and he responded "yes, I'm not eating that much. I have to watch my figure, all I care about is what I look like." That comes from the first midlife crisis site he looked at. I just love the mature, mocking behavior - it's a real winner! (yes, I am dripping with sarcasm)

Told H S is going to stay with grandparents on Friday. H asked if I was taking him. I said yes, I would be back on Sunday. Told H the dogs would be taken care of, as a friend of mine will be coming to watch them. H asked when he worked, I said Sat. H said he might take the day off because he does not want my friend in our house. I did not tell H that I am not staying with my parents for the weekend or that I'm picking up a friend in VA who will ride with me then I am going back to her place til Sun. Until he asks I am not giving up any more info. I am right on this one, aren't I?

BTW - I am very calm right now. I have been in a much more 'peaceful' place since finding this website. I am, however, a little scared by it. It's like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop.