First, let me be up front. This is a lesbian love story. If you are offended don't reply. Don't be titillated. We're ordinary ladies with ordinary lives. We've been seeing each other for about 2 years. That love has deepened and grown. When we met she seemed so pleased that I had an active sex drive. That didn't last.
The reasons have changed (she really doesn't know what they are): grief, menopause, fatigue, etc. But the reality is we are horribly mismatched in our sex-drive.
So, given that there is only so much coercing I can do and giving her the SSM to read is not likely (she gets defensive and shuts down), what is the higher-sex drive partner actually supposed to do. Trust me. I am loving, giving, kind and she would agree that all of her needs are met. But the lower sex drive person seems to have NO motivation to change as THEIR needs are met. Their only motivation is to get US off their backs.
I see sex as such a spiritual and emotional connection and we are so close ever (luckily when she does make love, it is with her whole heart and body). I am simply broken and unable to fully express who I am. Though I've tried, I simply can't seem to leave bc the love is so deep.
