New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Sorry I haven't posted for awhile. was gone to a military training...

I called my WAW to say Hi. Her first question was: "did your boss give you some time off to see the boys?" I told her I was given 2 weeks of leave. She asked me where I plan to take the boys and when would we link up. I gave her all the info she had questions about. She seemed pleased to know I was granted leave to see the boys.

Then I told her: "You are more than welcome to join us for a couple of days if you'd like to. That would be a lot of fun"

There was a pause on the other line. I just added: "if your schedule allows it, it would be great if you could join us". Another silent pause...

We chatted for a few more minutes then she beat me to the punch and said: "I have to go". so I said the same thing and we said goodbye to one another. I usually am pretty good at ending the conversation first. But this time she got me...

Anyway, no word about divorce or talking about the details of it since it was filed end of JAN 09...A few weeks ago my wife told me she filed a motion to keep the divorce proceedings in the courts(it may be dismissed since none of us have done anything about it...) She said I had "6 months, then I have to sign". I told her I didn't understand then remained silent.

Well, I ususally never do this, but I decided to call the court where she filed and check on the status of the filed divorce. The court clerk emailed back and said that no such motion has been filed and nothing has been done about this divorce since it's been filed in JAN 09.

I am trying to put a positive spin on this and hope that my WAW may not want a divorce after all. But I can't be sure.

So here I am after 1 full year of separation. I am hanging in there, GALing, reading DB and DR over and over, remembering the basics of DBing. It's not easy. But I believe it's worth the journey. I still don't feel it's time to call it quits.

Anybody has any input about my wife's reaction? Would like to have some feedback from you if you read this...THANKS.

JR09