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[Faith2010]

Thanks Gardener. Giving also told me not to. I won't. My thinking was if she would work on her M, she'd leave my H alone. But that won't change what he's doing...he'd just find someone else.

H does know about this. I had told H about it last Sunday morning when he wanted to know why I was so calm and not 'interrogating' him again. I also have the DR book from the library. It sits on my nightstand when it's not in my hand. Am I supposed to be hiding it?

This morning H is on his laptop and says to me "I'm not going through a midlife crisis." I inquired as to what he was speaking about. He read off of some things, indicating they did not describe him. (Although one was affair to which I gently said he was having an IA but he just shook his head no). But the rest of it was crap. I asked him to look up a different site. He did and found this:
* Unhappiness with life and the lifestyle that may have provided them with happiness for many years.
* Boredom with people and things that may have been of interest to them before.
* Feeling a need for adventure and change.
* Questioning the choices, they have made in their lives and the validity of decisions they made years before.
* Confusion about who they are and where they are going.
* Anger at their spouse and blame for feeling tied down.
* Unable to make decisions about where they want to go with their life.
* Doubt that they ever loved their spouse and resentment over the marriage.
* A desire for a new and passionate, intimate relationship.