To what extent are your respective experiences of the previous divorce influencing your evaluations of the current situation? You obviously can't know what's going on in WAW's head, but based on your observations now and (I assume) her characterization of D#1 in past conversations, is she re-enacting the past?
SP, you raise a point that exploded in my head 2 days ago!
I know the exact moment that W decided to divorce D1. I know reasons she was unhappy with H1/M1. In retrospect they now seem (to me) to have been potentially repairable, or attempt-to-repair-able at the least. But I never knew why she decided D.
I know much of why W was unhappy with me/our M. And they are all repairable/attempt-to-repair-able, IMO. But I don't know why she decided D.
So, the obvious answer to your 1st Q is YES! How does that affect my DBing? Well, I'll tell ya!... I don't know. Yet.
Re: my D1. Totally different bizzarro sitch (except for my initial pleading. Did lots of pleading.)
I'm also aware of pattern in her life of making a decision/last straw on people who have hurt her (H1, her father & mother, my mother, a friend/acquaintance or two, now me) to sever the R. Completely. Fini.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
