He met up with us halfway through the karate lesson. Sydney was being a handful. I scolded her for something and he grabbed her and took her outside. Then they came back in. A bit later she was pushing limits again so I took her outside...
After karate we went to dinner. I knew, knew, knew I should let him take them without me. Not making that mistake again.
We went to dinner at an asian-style place where you pick the meat and noodles and veggies and they cook it in front of you on a big grill. Sydney got chicken strips and was wanting to just eat our rice and no meat. I took the rice from her until she ate chicken...so she did. Then she was eating the ketchup without any meat so I took it away. Well Dan meanwhile was scolding nathan for eating his noodles with his fingers. The third time he scolded him he looked across the table at me and said under his breath, "I hate coming back from a trip and having to be the bad guy"...
Anyway he shut down for the rest of dinner. Sydney and I left shortly after...apparently he felt that the consequences I was giving Sydney weren't tough enough. He actually said he was going to have to 'stop traveling' so he could be home to discipline... (Of course later when we did the schedule he is traveling 13 days out of 31 in July.)
So I got Sydney home and Dan and Nathan came in. I was getting up to go do something out of the house for awhile. I mentioned that the kids were planning to have him for breakfast before church on father's day. I had emailed him this on Wednesday, too. And gotten the groceries for the casserole and monkey bread (cinnamon pull-apart bread) already. He just said, "No. I will come and take them out for breakfast (just him and kids)". Again, once we did the schedule he changed it to meeting up at church (I won't stop going to church so we will both be there), and then he has them the rest of the day on his own.
I am just so sick and tired of him calling me a bad mom, basically. I haven't been a real tough disciplinarian, esp with the bomb and fallout I know I was more lenient and just trying to make it through the day some days. And I still have a higher tolerance for some of the noise/commotion than he does. But for him to be home one hour after being gone all week, and decide he shouldn't have to discipline the kids??? Grr
I am going to meet the lawyer this week. He mentioned that he still wanted to meet with the pastor but he said he didnt think it was going to change anything with us. Well maybe at least it will help him to not be such a crabby miserable man.
(Of course later when we did the schedule he is traveling 13 days out of 31 in July.)
