I've followed your trials for awhile. I know you're like a fly caught in a spiders web but you've got to get away and get some objectivity to your relationship.
"What a fool sees, he believes.", is an old saying. Take off the rose coloured glasses.
If you had a brother and he came to you with your story what advice would you give him? Think that way. You are your best friend and you need help.
As a total novice I'd say your wife is suffering from NPD because she is totally involved in her own feelings. Sure she can't see how you'd forgive her but she really doesn't care since she has you in her bed and her lover on call.
Now she's willing to end a life for this piece of crap a world away.
You're your best friend. What advice do you have for yourself in this situation?
