WAH #4

[25yearsmlc]

I love Carolyn Myss! Have you read "Sacred Contracts" (you would like that I bet) and her work on Archetypes? Very interesting and provocative. The archetypes talk about the patterns in life we take and it's just really thought provoking...Also like Wayne Dyer and Marianne Willaimson (she's the author who said' Forgiveness is our way out of hell" in my signature block).

If your h's sponsor wants him to do daily meetings, why won't he? I mean why'd he pick him as a sponsor if there isn't enough trust to do as the sponsor suggests? Did your h do the first "90 days, 90 meetings"? That's pretty standard but honestly, after that it goes by what you can fit in. My job and kids took time so I could only do 5 meetings a week after the first 6 months, and I'd go at lunch time. Sometimes a crisis or event would trigger feelings and I'd need 2 meetings a day. I don't know how long it has been now for your h. Did you say 3 months? After how long of drinking? I mean has he been a drinker for years and years and now that he's been sober for 3 months he doesn't feel the need to follow his sponsor's advice or go to daily meetings...? Is that an accurate account of what you are saying?

Has your h had a spiritual awakening of any type? If he has, and if he allows it to truly get into his soul, his whole world view will change. Most people in recovery who truly really "get it", do NOT want to rush things...so let me say that his desire for all to resume as if all is well now,and to simply move forward, scares the crap out of me.

I don't want to be negative. I am glad he's sober. But again. I urge you to read the materials Al Anon has for you, and other books about co-dependencies and addiction...what have you got to lose?

(( j ))