Newbie - first post and ?s

[Faith2010]

Thanks for the post Gardener. I read your posts, sorry about your sitch. You know, I used to love roller coaster rides. Now I just want to be grounded.

H is really driving me crazy. Still no word from him today but he texts my S. Most likely he's been talking with OW all day. S just told me H is working his second job tomorrow. H doesn't tell me a darn thing. Since H has decided it's over, he takes absolutely NO responsibility for S. NONE! Doesn't spend time with him on days off. It seems all H cares about is talking with OW and staying away from here. H told me OW is having M problems, her H doesn't talk to her. I told H to tell OW to get on here if she wants to save her marriage. I'm sure he hasn't as I believe in his mind's eye, he sees them 'together' one day. OW is on facebook and I could send her a message, letting her know about this website and the books etc... But that's a bad idea, right?

I find it amazing that there are so many of us desperately trying to save our marriages...and our significant others don't feel the same way. When I married I never imagined being in this boat. I trusted him completely and always expected him to fight for us and not give up. No matter how this turns out, trusting H or someone else will be the most difficult thing ever.