It's automatic when you feel it

[Jayce]

Hey Mr.5, One little thing - you are in a warm climate, right? I caught that one description where you said something about after you ML getting dressed & going to sleep?? If I didn't misread that...why???? We love cuddlin' nekkid as we fall asleep. Every night, not just when ML is starting or done. Being skin to skin feels good and keeps a level of intimate contact that allows for events to occur spontaneously, or just touching, tickling, playing. It requires trust and conveys a sense of complete acceptance. Even if ML isn't frequent, there's the comfort of knowing your partner enjoys holding you, the full length body contact. It is sensual and for anyone who has gotten away from mutual sensuality,a way to gradually regain it. It doesn't represent constant pressure to "put out" it represents closeness and a base level of connection. At least to me, and evidently to H also. Even tho there have been some world class rough patches, since he quit with the T-shirts & shorts last year, we always have the comfort of touch at night. (Its hard to reject someone when you're naked with them, right?)
Its not as 'in your face' as hugging till relaxed. It is maybe more gradual, long term relaxing, in the dark with no one to see while your feelings evolve and become clear. It is what I would miss most if I were alone.
Jayce