Big hugs BA. I know what you mean about the no-win. AT least my h doesn't live here anymore. He says it's comfortable this way and he is content to do it that way for now.
Like you, there are frequently times that I really don't like my h. I just feel that my life is drifting down the drain and I'm losing who I am meant to be. Do you feel like that too?
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe