When WAS comes to you and says ILYBNILWY, s/he's taking Absolute Power over the sitch. And one of the reasons (IMHO) that LBS freaks and does all that nasty icky stuff we do, is the feeling of utter powerlessness. I felt that way a long time (in relative terms). And then I decided not to. Now I'm wielding the power here and WAW's game is off-kilter.
IMO That is exactly right. As a WAS I felt powerful and self esteem was at all time high. AS LBS I felt the loss of power, control of my life (or so I thought )and I felt like crap. Could not function.
Then it does happen, you take a tiny step towards taking some of your control back. Something as small as - not taking that phone call from WAS or answering an email. Then it takes on a life of its own. Sometimes moving forward and sometimes back, but never so far back that you are at the beginning.
You do start questioning WAS appeal ! But I think you have to be careful here not to form an opinion when you are surrounded in this drama. Do nothing that could be long term damaging or hurtful. Wait till the embers of the fires die down and then I think you will see if there is anything left in the ash to rebuild.
SP dont build your ego up so high that your head gets lost in the clouds. OR you will be like me and it sucks to be me !
