Most def. gonna have to quit letting him in my house. Utterly ridiculous to have to send everyone off on the porch, but I guess it is what it is. Uggg.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Oh, I don't know why the oops Jimbo. Just wish everything could be smooth and people could be mature and not act crazy and get pissed off. Okay, enough of that fantasy break. Back to reality now.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Have been getting harassed and barraged with his attempts to guilt me the whole weekend. He decided to throw down the ultimatum that either I let him move in with us this week, or he will go live with this gf 5 hours away. And THEN it will be all my fault if he doesn't come back to see the kids. (he says). Oh, and I will get my child support in the mail. AND, if he's not here to take the kids, then I will never have time to find someone else and will be alone. (says he).
Anyway- I told him to take himself down there and have fun. Told him his child support will not come in the mail, the attorney general will take it straight from his paycheck. Told him if he chose not to be a MAN and come see his kids, that was all on his back, not mine. And, that I will find someone else who not only loves me, but loves my kids as well so that won't be an issue.
Yep. I pretty much just laid it on the table. Tired of trying to be nice and him trying to bully me. He refused to give me his address where he will live, even though it said in our papers he had to notify me within 24 hours of a move of his address. He said he will not HAVE a legal residence b/c he will not have it on his drivers license or get mail there. lol
Anyway, my attorney will handle that I guess. We are final July 7th. His butt better get here to sign the papers.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Well, he's gone. Tried to call me this morning for some reason. I didn't answer. He called my son's phone several times too. I'm not worried about talking to him at all. No need to until he comes back to get the kids in two weeks. If he does.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Sweetie, I am sorry for your children that their father has become someone so infantile and that he might not come to see them. They deserve better and so do you.
Do what you must to protect yourself and your kids. . You said what you had to say, now do not engage with him at all unless it is regarding visitation with the children. You are feeding into his childish behavior when you do.
I am a little fearful that your h might become a full blown stalker. Please think about going down to the police station and just getting some of the harrassment documented. You dont have to try for a restaining order, just let someone know about it.
Thanks for the concern B. I dunno what's going to happen with him.
Okay, I got this lovely little e-mail from og today, talking about my kids. I would post it but it has everyone's names in it. In a nutshell- How she and J are so happy and as soon as our d is final (July 7th) that the four of them (they and my kids) will be so happy together and she can't wait to get to know them better. She also can't wait for her and J to come to my d's birthday party (which is 3 days after the d is final), and what does she want so that they can get it for her???
And that I have brought on all of this drama.
I need something. Meds, shots, yoga, I dunno. An 18yo is ready to be a happy little family with my children. I just ignored it. I have to remember I am 32, not 18. Jeeeezzzzz.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
I think I need to sit down and write about 1000 times,
I am the bigger person. I am the bigger person. I am the bigger person. I am the bigger person. I am the bigger person. I am the bigger person. I am the bigger person.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
