It is sad to watch people toss out marriages, repackage themselves and just do it all over again. It has impacted the lives of people I care deeply about. And, it is the easiest trap to fall into.
Alive. YOU didn't toss out the marriage. HE DID.
What would a spouse have to do before YOU would say enough?
Married to a pedophile? Incest? Rape? Murder? Physical abuse? Verbal abuse?
Would you still do the "work?"
Not me. I am a good person. (not perfect, but good and perfectly fine the way I am)
I won't share my wife with another man. I will let her go if she doesn't want to be with me. I WILL find someone else. (and dating quickly because there IS NOTHING wrong with me now) I will be happy. There is NOTHING wrong with me NOW. My wife finding another man doesn't mean that there is something wrong with me THEN. It doesn't mean if I find someone else that will and can be exclusive that I am running and not willing to do the work.
I believe it is just another excuse to say that you can't let go.
