Alive, If YOU want to "work" or whatever you are calling it in a relationship, then by all means "work"...
I am in a GREAT marriage. It isn't "work"
Real love is NOT work. If you have to "work" at it, then something has been wrong for a long time.
I know a lot of people on here "working" on their marriage.
I fail to see all that work producing much. Do YOU?
It is when you STOP working on it that it will fall into place. You may not be there yet, but when you are, you will know it.
I am not working on my M at this point. It is dead as far as I'm concerned. I'm working on me.
However, every long term marriage I've seen that lasts, requires work (do we need to break that down too???)
Especially, with all of the dysfunctional, co-dependent cases we have on this site...it takes work to change, and to create new dynamics whether alone or in 1st, 2nd or 3rd marriages.
