Okay, if I may interject (this is my thread after all), the thing about "work" in a M.
I agree with aak in that it all marriages are a work in progress. Some couples are able to roll with the punches easier than others. As conflicts or life changes (such as the birth of a child) come up, you put in the work to keep the M thriving. The lucky R are the ones where the couple sees the changes and independently adjust their roles as the transition calls for. But no matter how you look at it, it is work. Work defined as an effort.
Most M's aren't so lucky. We need something to wake us up to show us when something is or isn't working. And according to all the research the majority of M have one spouse that is doing the heavy lifting to keep the M happy. Of course the ideal is for both partners to be sharing the load, but realistically it just doesn't happen for most of us.
We forget to see our spouse as someone we dated and loved. Even our perception of love changes as the years go on.
Just a short commercial break. Carry on.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
