Fire's burning out...just smoldering

[blindsided1]

I think my H also equates niceness with weakness. The sad thing is that sometimes I think he is purposely trying to hurt me because somehow MY strength during our M, hurt him. I do believe he always felt somewhat inferior to me. I think he feels that with a lot of people. He has very low self esteem...always has and he's admitted it. So, now that he can make me cry and hurt it's like strength and power, to him. I don't want him to pass that on to our daughter. I would hate for her life to be as miserable as his is because he never learned how to care about people, how to love or how to let people love him. He wouldn't let me continue to love him as K's father. He destroyed that. He doesn't want it. So, I stopped trying.