In most cases, you have to improve the mood first before the wayward spouse even considers improving the M. I'm not talking about cake-eating, I'm just saying that usually when the bomb is dropped, emotions are running so high with one spouse at one extreme and the other at the other extreme.
So a neutral area must be reached in order for both parties to get working on the M. Like in all of our sitches, it takes one person to start the process rolling, but it does get to the point where emotions are left out and actual thinking can take place.
Now if the wayward spouse continues to do what their doing with no remorse, no compromise, no morals, etc. and are walking all over the LBS, that's cake-eating.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
