robx-

Don't you think physically separating made a difference in your sitch?

It is different when living together, IMO.

I think part of why the foot rub worked for you was because you had detached, you had your own place, your own life etc.

And yes, I believe this is something Stuck (as with most of us) need to work on whether in the same house or not. You get there when you get there.