I hate my H

[Jimbo]

I must agree with stillloveshim here. On every point. Nothing you try to do is going to magically pop him out of this, and anything you DO try is, more likely than not, going to backfire big time.

If HE doesn't even know what will make him happy, how the heck can YOU possibly figure it out for him?

You must take care of you, and leave him to him. I know it sucks, but that's the way this has to play out.